A mediated divorce is a viable, and affordable alternative to the traditional divorce process. In fact, in Colorado, an estimated 60-70 percent of people filing for divorce are now doing so on their own, without legal representation.
Many of the people I work with choose me because
- they are committed to reaching an agreement
- they don’t want to spend a ton of money on legal fees
- they’re looking for guidance on how divorce works
- they’re struggling with communications
As your mediator, I’ll guide you through the financial and parenting decisions that need to be made so you can find the solutions that will work for your specific situation. My role is a ‘third-party neutral.’ That means I’m here to facilitate your discussions, not to take sides. When appropriate, I’ll share with you how other people have handled similar situations.
I offer a free 30-minute consult. Please contact me to arrange a time for us to talk. Since it’s critical that both parties agree to a particular mediator, I’m happy to talk with both you and your spouse/ex individually.
There is no state licensing of mediators in Colorado. There is however a professional organization of which I am a professional member. As such, I have to meet annual continuing education requirements to maintain my standing.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: In what states do you offer mediation?
A: Sorry, I wish I could help everyone … I offer mediation only in Colorado. I’m based in Boulder and typically meet in person. However, I have also held mediation sessions using conference calls which works great when you and your spouse work in different cities and scheduling is a challenge.
Q: How many mediation sessions will it take?
A: Every divorce is unique so it’s impossible to answer that question without knowing your circumstances. As part of the free consult, we’ll review your specifics and I can give you an estimate then. The major influence however, is the degree to which you and your STBX are willing to compromise.
Q: Will we have to pay for everything upfront?
A: No. I believe for mediation to be successful, it is critical that both parties have confidence in the competency and neutrality of the mediator. There are also situations where further mediation sessions would be inappropriate and/or unproductive. For these reasons, payment for my services is as we go.
Q: How do you charge for your services?
A: I charge for our meeting time and my time spent for creating your Separation Agreement and, if needed, your Parenting Plan and any other forms/documents needed for your filing. I will give you a cost estimate in advance for any billable time in addition to our meeting time so there will be no surprises.
Q: What if I need legal advice?
A: While most people I work with chose not to be represented by an attorney, they usually do have some issues on which they need legal advice. Many attorneys are now offering their services on an ‘unbundled basis’ which means you can work with an attorney on an hourly basis. It is helpful to have an attorney that you are working with so you can check in with them during the mediation process as technical questions arise and to have them review final agreements.
Q: What documents will we have at the end of the process?
A: Our goal together will be to create a Separation Agreement (this covers how you will divide your finances) and, if you have minor children, a Parenting Plan. Both parties can then take these documents for legal review and then file them with the court. I can also help with any other supporting documents such as Sworn Financial Statements, Child Support Worksheets and Spousal support Worksheets in addition to administrative filing forms.
Q: Do you handle post-divorce matters?
A: Yes, I do. I have worked with clients on modifications of spousal support, child support and parenting plans.